Wednesday, November 30, 2011

Venting is dangerous

A few days ago was the premiere of "Kourtney and Kim Take New York," and I just got around to watching it this afternoon. Like many people, I was curious about how a marriage, no matter how rushed-into, could dissolve so quickly. Obviously there were many issues involved, but one thing really struck me when watching the episode.

I've long believed that one of the worse things you can do for any relationship is complain about the other person to someone else. In fact, complaining about anything to someone else is often a bad idea. Why? Because the average person (myself included) is naturally inclined to try to make you feel better by reassuring you that the problems are as big as you make them out to be. The problem of course is that a problem is rarely as big as people make them out to be.

A quote I like applies well to relationship squabbles: "There are two sides to every story, and then there is the truth." When complaining to others about your significant other, no matter how fairly you try to paint the picture, you won't succeed. And having someone tell you that you are 100% right may make you feel better, but it is never true.

2 comments:

  1. Too true.. you never know what is actually going on behind closed doors because relationships are so personal. Totally agree about not complaining about your significant other to others.. usually a bad idea!

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  2. I always feel guilty when I vent to someone about an argument because I know that I'm not able to present it fairly.

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